I Was Travelling 5 Hours Daily Just 10 Months After Delivery. That Bus Changed My Entire Life.

It was not just a place it's a mind full of good memories that keeps echoing in my daily life. yeah. It was 1 full year of just daily travel that I could never forget in my life. Do you know? I was travelling 2 and half hours at morning 2 and half hours at evening around 90 kms daily just for going to office. I started going office at my 10th month of delivering baby. I tried to get transferred from Tiruvannamalai to somewhere else just not because i cant work there. I love that place its even very silent in the middle of field. Actually the whole route will be so nice. When i started travelling i was sitting on the Bannet in Coimbatore bus that starts at 8.30 am. It was a morning when the whole bus was crowded but i was the one and only person sitting on that bannet sitting as if someone is going to feed me at pandhi. Pandhi is actually when all people in any function are sitting at place for serving and eating food. I was staring at the wide view of the whole route i didnt care about anyone in the world not even driver who was near bannet. 

Next day again the same thing but people started crowding in the whole bus everyday i was moving to front of the bus soon after getting inside bus just to see the view. I had no idea that this bus would give me a lot of lessons and messages for my life. I never turned anywhere other than the banner and the front view. One day people were fighting not to let me sit in front because others who usually sit in the place i was sitting were not getting place and the fight got bigger. One lady with mom kind of divine face, I'm saying divine because i saw her with white thiruneer on her forehead. she supported me and let me sit in front of the bus. From then front was my place. 

I got some friends who were travelling in the same bus from years together. I started listening. Listening why they were travelling. How long were they travelling etc. Everyday i would hear variety of interesting stories from each one travelling along with me. One guy was from thoothukudi and wife from tiruvannamalai. After years of trying to convince his wife he moved to wifes place and the family is now settled. I understood its the lifestyle of government employees. Travel and travel for work. You know why? They cant get settled in single place. I'll be working in one place thinking this is my permanent place but after some years without notice we will get transfer order saying you will be promoted and transferred to so and so place. we cant leave the job we cant leave the family either. We cant revert the transfer. We need to manage somehow. that managing comes as travelling. 

Getting back to the story, I started travelling eveyday in the same route and the bus became my favourite place. I was even irritated in office many times. I wont be given proper work. Even if i work i wont get recognition there will be a cover with higher authority. I was in my depression phase after my delivery it was not that easy. I'll be cranky and down lot of times thinking why am i travelling? what will my child do? Will my husband even come? I used to call him to come at weekends but he would say I'm keep on torturing calling him. When i need him most i would even cry asking for him to come he might never come on expected days and come on unexpected days. All those who brought me away from this situation is my CAO, my bus friends etc.

After some time i got to know some people even travels from my place. initially i was travelling from Arni to Tiruvannamalai by bus and the remaining by bike where my dad drops me. then it was a change i started travelling by bus from Arcot itself which takes one extra hour but was better because i used to get heavy backpain travelling by bike since i was a new mom and was just 10 months after delivery. Those drivers who helped my i can never forget that thatha who used to come just to pick me up by some time. I used to come stand in bus stop wait until 7.45 and leave just because i cant catch next bus which starts exactly at 8.30 am. It wont be easy. I told that driver thatha who was reaching to arcot at 7.25am itself that everyday I'm waiting thatha can you come at 7.35 then next day he came at 7.35 am and i got the bus he told me so to get you into the bus I should come at this time. So that was my first hope. Then i saw people who come with me in Tiruvannamalai (Coimbatore) bus in Arni bus also. I recognized 3 people whom i see there regularly. 

The route got changed suddenly there was some construction work going on near arni mangamaram bus stop and the bus was going in different route that is when I started talking to those people who were coming with me. They were very nice with me. We all became like a family. They take me along whenever they travel home from office. They never treated me like a girl and nobody who knows me treats me like that. One guy never trusted im a girl at all and he became most important person. I would say he never trated me as a girl and he used to share anything and everything to me. I was comfortable too to share everything because i never felt him like someone else. He was such a beautiful soul who always tries to keep people around him happy but only after talking to him i got to know his another face which yearns for care, love etc. I have never seen him talking in sweet voice with his mom. He was really happy when i told him to first be cool and calm with his mom. He was really hapy the day when he said his mom was in tears when he asked if she had her breakfast. Think of ourselves. We travel everyday, work for office, eat something to fill stomach, travel back, sleep and after all these we forget whom are we working for. Asking did you eat is just a basic care that we give to our parents but where are we heading? 

I got really happy that i got someone whom i can travel with until i reach home. He was same as me. I cant share my thoughts with anyone because i know nobody cares and he was the same. I was thinking what all we can do during travel like watching movie, listening songs etc. But most of the times ended up blabbering about office politics that we come across each day. But there was no problem. We were performing better in office. We never took leave to office. Even parents or siblings will never listen us fully because everybody is busy with their own works. 

A lot of things happen in bus travel especially at nights. Girls who are standing in bus stops means people will stare at them from top to bottom, I really wont understand whats wrong with people. In Arni bus stop all conductors also would not give proper answers. Even if a girl is travelling at night, they wont let us sit inside bus saying you are going nearby only right get inside only after bus starts. Bus will be in bus stand from 8.05 pm till 8.20 even if we just miss one bus at 8 am in just one or 2 minutes we need to stand till 8.20 or 8.30 and eveyone will be staring at us. I would feel like dying there. One day i ran for bus and came for sitting and the conductor told me get down i was just listening music and didnt even listen what that guy was yelling at. I was feeling like who will ask us to get down. Im not some typist or steno in court. I'm assistant Programmer, Assistant System officer in court but who are you to treat me like this i was feeling. Then i told the next day to my friend that this happenend at he told me next day il come lets see who will treat you like that and he kept his words. No one asked me any question, They were treating me with respect because i was not alone. I had 3 more people travelling with me. They came along with me. OMG. It was really nice to feel that way. 

We had plans for starting youtube for people who travel. problems that we face everyday as travellers for work. Suddenly, one day I got transferred. That is when I realised what I had. Part 2 coming soon